From the Cutting Room Floor

Laughing at :: Molly. She so desperately needs a haircut. It's to the point where her hair is so long over her eyes that she walks into my knees on the regular, and can't see tennis balls when we throw them in the park - she runs in the opposite direction and it's hilarious and kind of a little bit sad.

Enjoying :: wearing my wedding ring on its own, without my engagement ring. There's something so wonderful about seeing that simple little band on my finger, and knowing it means so much.

Taking advantage of :: the fact that now we are married I can be as outlandish as I want without fear of rejection. I ask Adam to "please get me some pie please I would really like some pie please" at all kinds of ungodly hours, and even though he has yet to get me pie, he can't tell me to bugger off and really mean it. Being married is great. Especially for those who enjoy pie.

Craving :: this pumpkin cornbread from Spoon Fork Bacon. I love all things corn bread and this is something I have got to try as a matter of urgency!!

Working on :: my photography portfolio!! I promised myself it would be my first post-wedding project and I'm already underway with trying to purchase a domain name. Any suggestions? Or maybe just freyadowson.com?

Loving :: my new Madewell jumper and jeans I bough in New York. Wow their stuff is comfortable - please come to London? 

Looking forward to :: catching up with Rocio when she comes to London so soon! And meeting Maja for the first time in December, hopefully if our flights coincide!! There's nothing like blogging for bringing together soul-sisters. 

Hating :: having to have strong words with people. Twice lately I have had to confront someone in public about cutting in front of me when it comes to getting a table at a restaurant. Both times I had been waiting ages, and the first time I was responsible for sitting around 28 people. Both ladies were mean and I was shaking afterwards, but I did it and I won! And hated every minute of it. I am not down with confrontation. 

Wanting :: a new candle. I spotted one at the Such & Such pop-up shop on Brick Lane last night that I think needs to come home with me. Also, while we're dreaming, one of their beautiful blankets too.

Answering :: the question "are you taking Adam's last name" a lot. Nope, I'm not. I don't want to, at least not right now. And also I'm bad at admin and paperwork. Oh and also, he's absolutely fine with it.

Thoughts on Having a Destination Wedding

Here’s the thing with destination weddings: they’re incredible. I know all weddings are incredible, but to get married overseas and have all of your friends and family fly across oceans to be with you – that really means something.

When Adam and I sent out our invites, we sent them to I think around 120 people, expecting a wedding of about 40. We got 68! That was a shock to me because I didn’t think we would know that many people who would spend that kind of money to hang out in Bermuda with us for a whole week.

Having a destination wedding at a venue that is set up for weddings, like a resort, is one thing. But organising everything yourself to have a wedding at a house not set up for weddings? Well, let's just say we took on a bit much. We did not take the easy option, and when it comes to weddings, it's best to usually opt for easy.

But when we were actually in Bermuda and just spending time with friends, not planning anything and knowing that there wasn’t any more admin we could do that day, when we just got the chance to relax, it really hit me that everyone was there for us! Our friends and family spent their hard earned money, and precious holiday leave on us! 

I don’t think I’ve ever felt so cared about, and it was such a wonderful feeling. The realisation of what our friends and family had done for us hit me so many times that week, and each time it came as a shock. I’m so glad that we planned days at the beach, pub nights and BBQs to enjoy every moment with our friends and family.

And the day after the wedding, after the hurricane and blown past, when we all gathered to have brunch at the only café open on Front Street (even though their roof was leaking), it was so great to see people who hadn’t even met a week earlier, sitting around a table chatting like old friends. And later when our friends made a plan to meet that night, and hoped that they would actually see each other because no one had a working mobile phone or power of any kind, it made my heart so happy to see people forming friendships and organising events without Adam or I prompting. That night when we finally found a working wifi signal, everyone was adding each other on facebook, drinking dark and stormies, and wishing that the week didn’t have to end.

There’s nothing like a destination wedding for bringing people together. Instead of one night, you take a week or a few days to have lots of little parties and gatherings, people get comfortable enough to help out and take over some of the organisation, and it starts to feel more like summer camp than a grown up wedding. It may not have been the easiest choice, but I don't think Adam or I would have had it any other way.

Looking Forward To

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Well, today marks my official first day back at work now that the wedding and honeymoon excitement is over. I've read enough blog posts about post-wedding blues to know that it is a very real thing. It's so strange to go through such a life changing event, especially in another country, and then come back and find yourself sat on the bus again, and at your desk again, and making small talk while making tea in the office kitchen again.

Fortunately I am prepared! When the stress of organising a wedding was at its worst, I started a list on my phone of all the things I was looking forward to doing when I had my life back, and when wedding planning wasn't the only thing I had time for. It also doubles as a list of things I am looking forward to in the coming colder months:

Find haunted house tour :: I'm going to do Halloween right this year! I would love to find a haunted house tour or walk in London, I'm going to dress up, hand candy out and watch It's the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown. We've already bought our pumpkins too!

Road trips :: I'm going to need some countryside and fresh air soon, I think. A weekend away in some cottage somewhere is definitely on the cards.

Mince pies :: possibly one of the things I look forward to most in the colder months. They're my absolute favourite. Oh and mulled wine or hot apple cider.

Change up my makeup routine :: when getting ready for a wedding you don't really want to mess with your face, or risk any issues like breakouts or allergic reactions. For a while now I've been wanting to try out some more natural face products, using coconut oil more and soap less, that sort of thing. Now that I don't need to be so photogenic, I can try swapping my store-bought products for some more natural alternatives.

Unpack winter clothes :: I did that yesterday and it was SO good to see all my jumpers again!! Oh and hello cardigans, I've missed you!

Open a cookbook :: when was the last time I cooked a recipe from a cook book? It's been a long time, that's for sure. In New York I saw the Chelsea Market Cookbook and I'm thinking of buying a copy because the recipes looked so good.

Dinner parties :: putting those cookbooks to good use! We kind of don't have the space to have a dinner party in our flat, but I'm determined to find a way!

New planner :: I'm almost finished with this years planner from The Magic Notebook and I've started looking at which one I'm going to go for this year.

Start reading Jane Eyre and The Night Circus :: I read Jane Eyre every year at around this time. It's one of my favourites and I just find it puts me in a wintery mood. The Night Circus I think will also make it onto my yearly book routine, and it's been a while so I think I may start to re-read Harry Potter too. Hooray for comfort reading!

The Wedding and the Hurricane

We're married!!!!

It was a wild and crazy adventure trying to pull off a wedding in Bermuda, and it didn't unfold as we thought it would - Mother Nature had other plans. With a hurricane on its way we had to improvise and for so many reasons, it all turned out so much better. I can't wait to share the story in full, because it's a good one, but for now we're honeymooning in New York and trying to organise new flights home thanks to ANOTHER hurricane. But we're married, and no matter how crazy all the other stories are turning out to be, that really is the most exciting news I can tell you. 

Photo by Rory Wylie  

Keeping My Head

I arrived a few days ago in Bermuda and have slowly been adjusting to the heat and the time difference. It's been lovely so far and it's always nice to be back on the island, and to finally be getting ready for the wedding. It feels like we've been waiting for this forever!

Getting married in paradise is wonderful, but a wedding is stressful no matter what the location. I'm trying to make sure I do a few things each day that are helping me keep my head.

My Grandparent's house has some pretty amazing views over the creek so I'm making sure to get in some yoga by the ocean whenever I can - followed by a swim in the creek to cool off. 

My mum also has me hooked on this smoothie she's been drinking lately, it's absolutely delicious:

- blueberries

- spinach

- greek yogurt

- flax seed

- a splash of water

- a splash of milk

It may not sound that exciting, but it sets you up for the day like nothing else. That, an apple and a couple of coffees and I've had enough energy for all the admin that needs doing.  

Daily trips to the beach! That's a must. Even if it's just a quick visit between appointments with the florists and the caterers, taking just a moment to play in the waves is wonderful. I swear the ocean had healing powers.  

Taking some time to get my camera out. I've figured out that the two things that make me happiest and keep me calm are yoga, and taking some photos. It seems like an odd combination even to me, but whatever works, right?

These are the thinks keeping me calm in the days running up to the wedding - I just hope I can keep making the time for them!