Where Are All The Lobsters?




Here's a little fact about me: I am heavily invested my my closest friends finding true love. I'm not a matchmaker, and I don't interfere in their love lives beyond giving my opinion, but only when I'm asked for it and even then I try to be really impartial. But my friends being happy in love is something that means a lot to me.

I have a few girlfriends who are single and they don't want to be and nor do they deserve to be. They've gone past the age that they thought they would be married by - and even mothers. They just haven't found the right guy, and it really bothers me because they so deserve to. 

Of course some of my single girlfriends just want to be single, that's absolutely fine. And others just cause trouble for themselves, they purposefully go for the wrong guy because they like the drama - and if by chance they end up with a good one, they quickly get bored and move on. But those aren't the kind of girls I'm talking about.

I'm talking about my girlfriends who are among some of the best people I've ever met. They're kind, fun-loving, hilarious, beautiful, down to earth, independent, and drama-free. They want to be in meaningful relationships, but they don't (outwardly anyway) make a big deal out of the fact that they're not.

But it really bothers me. I want them to be loved by someone in the way that they deserve to be. And if by chance one of them ends up with a complete wanker, I'm not sure I'll be able to handle it. One of my best friends was born to be a mother and she so much wants to be a wife, if she doesn't get the chance I think it may actually break my heart as well as hers. I just want those closest to me to have everything they want in life, is that too much to ask?

I look back to when I was little and I don't remember any of my mother's girlfriends being single, and if they were it was for a reason. But surely girls not being able to find nice guys between the ages of say, 28-35 is nothing new, is it?

Where are all the nice boys? I want to be able to say about one of my friends when they find real love "he's her lobster!" like Phoebe does in Friends. 

Only, WHERE ARE ALL THE LOBSTERS?